Sleep Muse: Bettina Khan

For the next week we're focusing on the launch of our mists and roll-ons: a collection inspired by daily rituals. The collection consists of 5 blends: Wake, Focus, Balance, Still and Sleep. For this campaign, we spent 1 day getting a glimpse into the lives of 5 incredible, dynamic women from our community. Each woman is a muse for the blend she best represents. Here, you'll get a chance to learn more about her daily rituals.

On the day of our shoot, we met Bettina at Jericho beach in Vancouver. While we were unpacking the car, she and her daughter, Valentina were playing on the grass. Upon meeting her, there was an immediate warmth and the joy she felt being with her daughter was palpable. We wandered over to a bit of a hidden hideaway—a special spot underneath a giant willow tree. There were reeds swaying in the background and it felt like a hazy dream. We laid down a blanket for her and V to sit on and started to shoot.

We chose Bettina as the muse for our Sleep blend because as a mother, she understands the importance of creating a bedtime ritual—for both her daughter and herself. While Bettina admits that finding time for herself is rare, she has carefully and thoughtfully taken the time to make sure those last few minutes before bed are well spent with her loved ones (with no technology in sight). The fact that Bettina is also a powerhouse woman with a background in both business and philanthropy makes her a vitruvi muse through and through.

We chatted with Bettina about misunderstandings about marriage, sleep and sex, what drives her, and her bedtime routine for V— which sounds like the most lovely way to end the day.

You are an absolute powerhouse with a strong business and philanthropic background. How do you recharge? Do you ever have trouble turning your brain off and getting to sleep?
I recharge by moving my body, meditating, and laughing with my amazing husband and daughter. No matter where I am or what time of day it is, taking a deep breath recenters me and connects me to the present moment. To ensure I can get solid sleep (which is mega important, but often rare with a baby), I power down anything electronic well before bed and have an intentional, connected moment with my husband.

What are some of your evening rituals? How have some of these changed since having Valentina?
I have a few, simple rituals in life—and my bedtime routine is sacred. I lost connection to my evening rituals after having V because I only understood how to take care of her. I acknowledge the importance of self care, especially now that I am a mother, because it’s easy to completely forget about myself. I am getting back on track. I like to take another shower before bed as I probably have food in my hair or sand stuck to me after our daily adventures. I slick my body with high quality oils, including vitruvi essential oils. I read, spend time with my husband, and meditate.

What’s on your nightstand?
Water, coconut oil, my gorgeous vitruvi diffuser and lavender oil. What’s not on my nightstand? My phone.

How have you cultivated a sleep ritual or bedtime routine for V?
I want to teach my daughter to indulge in and appreciate the simple beauty of life. I also show her my passions for music, art, and culture. Her bedtime routine is a reflection of these things and is so much fun. It includes a lively bath with gentle oils, a full body massage while listening to Sade, and stories by a variety of authors who write to inspire love, acceptance, and adventure. Before she goes to sleep, I tell her how much I love her and that she’s my best friend.

You have started a number of initiatives around the wedding industry, love and real talk. What do you think are some of the most misunderstood things about marriage, sleep and sex?
The most misunderstood things about marriage, sleep and sex are that they have to be one prescribed way. Our intuition is there to guide us. I think so often we are searching for answers outside of ourselves, but I strongly believe the answers we seek are always waiting for us. We just have to listen. And when it comes to sex specifically, it’s simple: find someone who you can be fully self expressed with and have lots of headboard-breaking sex!

What fuels you and fills you up with drive and energy?
I am fuelled by the thought of my legacy. I constantly think about the sacrifices my family made so I could be here now. I think about how I can stand on their shoulders and honour their hard work. I think about future generations, my children and their children. I consider how I will be remembered and what I did to propel their lives.

How do you take time for yourself?
Honestly, time for myself is rare. I carve out time to exercise and meditate daily to sweat, recenter, and get present to what truly matters.

Photos by Brit Gill.

October 15, 2018